This is a selfie of my daughter and I, taken minutes before she competed in a speech and debate tournament with her school team, and it was my first time judging for the tournament. What is it that makes a healthy well-adjusted beautiful young girl with goals, hobbies, friends and a strong family support system, struggle with self harm and suicidal thinking? I don't know the answer to this question but I am learning as a mom that I cannot immunize my children from the struggles of today, by giving them neither love, support, affirmation, nor iphones, laptops or other belongings. So for now, remembering there is no immunization, no assurance, no promises, I savor the fun, brace myself for the hard days, and remember to say "I love you. You are enough just the way you are."