The thing about a dangerous relationship, or an abusive relationship, is that it is SO FLIPPING HARD TO SEE. The person starts off kind, sweet, funny, basically-- Perfect.... right??? Nope. Eventually that person changes-- they start to lie they ask you to do ALL the giving and they give nothing in return. A healthy relationship should balance out. Not to say that a healthy relationship is perfect, but a healthy relationship will NOT DEMAND CONTROL. A healthy relationship can hear the word 'no' without getting angry. A healthy relationship is not based off of a lie. A healthy relationship does not try and change who you are. A healthy relationship is not co-dependent. A healthy relationship is not manipulative. If your relationship has a lot of these red flags then its probably abusive and you should run before you get caught in their perfect lies.